Family Waring Factions

Ba Benjamin Franklin batile, “You May delay but time will not”.
In the last 5 years, I have observed and noted with dismay, some 5 groups of Family members who once upon a time on the Copperbelt were very closely knit to each other as sisters, cousins and brothers but instead of happily living together in Lusaka as extended families the very same way they used to, they have decided to go against the African and Zambian values and opted for nuclear family arrangement much to the chagrin of and perplexed elders and old parents. Sisters have turned against sisters and brothers. Cousins against cousins and aunties against aunties and uncles. This trend is apparently growing and both the church and the community or society seems to be very helpless against the downward trend! Will it be arrested? Doubtful! The Western modernity of Nuclear Family definition has crept in. Wako ni Wako Te fintu sana! Only bumping into each other accidentally during shopping, funerals, wedding or Elections. Tesana!
Let us all Kindly try to step back from our frustration and ask ourselves this. What good, useful thing can you do right now? Set aside your annoyance and think about this. What can you be thankful for?

We all want progress, but if you’re on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road; in that case, the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive. – C. S. Lewis

Let go of your anger and let yourself focus on this. What would make the situation better for everyone involved? It’s easy to become overwhelmed with negative emotions. Yet it’s always possible to work yourself back to a more peaceful, positive state. We all go through stuff. Thinking others don’t have issues is a misnomer.

We are not living in a world where all roads are radii of a circle and where all, if followed long enough, will therefore draw gradually nearer and finally meet at the centre: rather in a world where every road, after a few miles, forks into two, and each of those into two again, and at each fork, you must make a decision. – C. S. Lewis

Make the commitment to let your best intentions guide you away from your worst reactions. Forgive yourself, forgive others, accept the moment, and move forward. You’re living in a world that’s filled with abundance, on a day that offers countless possibilities. Make the choice to be a positive presence, a positive force, and bring the best possibilities to life.

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. The Lord has said ‘Fear not, for I am with you’. Whenever you are without hope, feel the soothing voice of God lifting you up and guiding you to the end of the dark tunnel towards light. Cast off your burdens, as there is someone who will give you the courage and strength to overcome all the problems. Lesa fye umwine! Stay blessed folks – Kunda Katwishi Kalaba 09/19

Published by Kemman

Regulatory and Independent Consulting Professional with expertise in Financial Crime Risk Compliance encompassing Anti-Money Laundering (AML), Countering Terrorism Financing (CTF), Anti-Bribery & Corruption (ABC – FCPA & UKAB), Global Trade & Sanctions, Bank Secrecy Act (BSA), Know Your Customer (KYC) and Customer Due Diligence (CDD), Internal Audit Testing, Reviews, Validation, Risk Assessment. Worked in Asia, Africa, Europe, the Middle East, North America (USA). Banking & FinTech, Anti-Sex & Human Trafficking Advocate, FOREX & Cryptocurrency trading, Travel & Tours, Telecommunications & Energy.

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