22 June 2020: 06/21/2020 – Deep reflections on the FATHER’s “SUN”Day. Morning “Online” Prayers and I go out jogging. Hot and Humid in the Sunshine State of Florida, but a man has to do what a man has to do. I come back home and take a cold shower. After breakfast; and upon checking my phone, messages have flooded my phone. It is FATHERS Day after all. Thanks and great appreciation are in no small measure. I owe you all an incalculable debt of gratitude.
One “chain” message from several colleagues from across the globe went like this. “Had to do it bro. I Nominate you for the Most loving and hardworking Dad Award. You must send to 15 dads and make their day. Sometimes u just need to hear it. You’re an awesome dad, doing a great job and you’re so loved!”
Now, as a Dad, I’m dedicating this to my Children. In our African Ubuntu, by extension, to all my nieces and nephews, friends and neighbours’ children, all their friends and anyone below the age of 35. Yes, all the Youth, the young and old enough to be my children or indeed anyone who cares to listen to this “Happy Father’s Day” in 2020.
There are two fundamental choices in life. We can either move forward or we can move backward. Standing still and just staying where you are is not really an option. Rocking Chair and a Rocking horse make movements, but they don’t go anywhere. The end game is to move forward and in the right direction.
Albert Einstein said, “We can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created,”. What difficult and annoying problems are we living with and complaining about, that may have simple, elegant solutions that are right there, out in the open, to see? Even though the problem whines for attention, it’s important to step back from it and to look at the whole situation. That’s when the positive possibilities will suddenly make themselves apparent.
Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do. – Pope John XXIII.
We should not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ We may just have to start from where we are, where we stand, and work with whatever tools we may have at our command, and better tools will be found as we go along. – George Herbert.
But umuntu kwambako first. What it does mean is that you must find a way to make positive progress on your own terms. Life is inherently dynamic and to full experience the best life has to offer, you must be dynamic too. If you attempt to just stay where you are, you’ll look out of the window and feel yourself moving backward. Where there is a will, there is a way. If there is a chance in a million that you can do something, anything, to keep what you want from ending, do it. Pry the door open or, if need be, wedge your foot in that door and keep it open. – Pauline Kael.
The other great habit we need to cultivate and develop is the great art of letting go and moving on. Letting the bygones be bygones. Let the sleeping dogs lie and move on. Sometimes, you might be going along great, making progress, enjoying the effort, and then an unexpected interruption crashes your efforts to the ground. So, deal with the interruption, then let it go, and move on. Moving on, we all must do.
You’ve worked long and hard to achieve the results you desire, but the results you end up getting are not what you wanted. Accept the disappointment, learn all you can from it, and move on. Out of the blue, something new and wonderful suddenly comes into your life. So, enjoy the moment fully, and then move on.
Whether it’s pleasant or unpleasant, expected or unexpected, fulfilling or disappointing, life brings new substance every day. Live it fully, making the most of what comes, and then get moving along. Don’t keep fighting against the bad stuff that’s already occurred, or continue clinging to the good stuff that’s already over. Let what has happened be what has happened, and move on.
Whether it’s been wonderful or disappointing or a mixture of both, be thankful for whatever you’ve just experienced. Feel your renewed inspiration, activate your new strength, and move positively on. Stay Safe. Stay Blessed. From Happy Father’s Day. Happy Grandad. KEKK/21/2020